Working with me means working with someone who has been in your shoes. I know what you’re going through because I’ve been there. I spent most of my life there! You may use different words, but they all play out in pretty much the same way. Do you identify with any of these feelings?
- People think you’ve got it all, but deep inside, you feel like a fake.
- No matter how well you do, how much weight you lose, what clothes you wear, etc., you just never feel comfortable in your skin.
- You really don’t have a clear idea of what “just kicking back” even looks like.
- You find it hard to describe yourself if you don’t know the person you’re talking to (i.e., you don’t know what they’re looking for or what their expectations are, so you don’t know “what to be”).
- Even the slightest “correction” (not to mention “criticism”) is absolutely crushing for you.
- You have elevated perfectionism to new heights.
- There is an “unease” deep inside that you just can’t quite put your finger on.
- Either avoidance or overcompensation is your coping mechanism of choice.
- You give, give, give and don’t even realize that when you come calling on yourself, you’re depleted and there’s no one home.
These are just some of the “symptoms” that indicate that you have taken yourself out of the equation of own your life, so as to not see your “imperfections”. Because I have been there-done that, I recognize the syndrome well and can help lead you to a place of wholeness.
What are the metrics?
♦ You sleep better because all that background noises and constant negative self-talk begins to gradually quiet.
♦ Your muscles begin to loosen up, allowing you to feel more comfortable in your body.
♦ People smile at you more often. (You probably won’t realize it right away, but it’s because you’re smiling more often, too!)
♦ You bring more of yourself into your relationships because you’re being gentler and kinder to yourself.
♦ You will have the strength to end toxic relationships; balance out the ones that are worth it, and establish new and far more rewarding ones — all because you have changed how you relate to yourself.
♦ Most importantly, you see yourself through more loving and compassionate eyes!